英国名厨杰米·奥利弗近日在接受采访时，分享了他与妻子朱丽叶结婚25年仍恩爱如初的秘诀。他认为，婚姻中适当的“张力”是保持吸引力的关键，同时强调了不记仇和充分沟通的重要性。奥利弗表示，尽管他和妻子在很多方面都很不同，但正是这种差异带来了“张力”，并使他们的关系更加稳固。他坦言婚姻需要经营，双方都在努力磨合，并认为妻子在家庭中的付出是婚姻成功的关键。奥利弗还提到，他身边的女性朋友和家人帮助他保持谦逊，不至于让他过于自满。

💑 **爱与张力并存：** 杰米·奥利弗认为，与妻子朱丽叶25年的婚姻之所以长久，关键在于“爱与张力并存”。他坦言两人性格差异较大，这种差异并非阻碍，反而能产生一种“张力”，使关系保持新鲜感和吸引力，他感觉“非常幸运”。

🤝 **沟通与不记仇：** 奥利弗强调，在婚姻中最重要的原则是“不记仇，并尽可能多地沟通”。他表示，很多时候争执的对错并不重要，重要的是对方的感受和整体的和谐，有时甚至可以不计较谁对谁错，只为让妻子开心。

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 **家庭支持与谦逊：** 奥利弗承认婚姻需要双方共同努力，并特别感谢妻子朱丽叶在家庭中的付出，认为她承担了许多不易。同时，他也提到妻子、女儿以及身边工作的女性朋友们帮助他保持谦逊，不会让他过于自负，使他能更好地认清自己。

⚖️ **理解与包容：** 奥利弗提到，他们夫妇“就像其他人一样，在不断地磨合和解决问题”。这意味着婚姻中并非一帆风顺，而是需要双方在日常生活中不断理解、包容和共同面对挑战，才能维系长久的感情。

Jamie Oliver says that a bit of "tension" is key to his 25-year marriage.Oliver first met his wife when they were teenagers. Now, they have five kids together.What matters most is "not to hold grudges, and to try to communicate as much as possible," he said.

Jamie Oliver's secret to 25 years of marriage? A whole lot of love with just a dash of tension.

"I wouldn't be the first to say opposites attract," the celebrity chef told Good Housekeeping in an interview published on Tuesday. "We get on very well and we genuinely like each other, but we're also very different. That can create a certain tension, but it also seems to work, and I feel very blessed to have had 25 years."

Oliver first met his wife, Juliette "Jools" Norton, when they were teenagers. The couple married in 2000 and shares five kids.

But even after all this time together, Oliver says marriage takes work, and they're "just wrestling through like anyone else."

What matters most is "not to hold grudges, and to try to communicate as much as possible," he said.

Oliver added that "sometimes it doesn't matter who's right or wrong" because, ultimately, he just wants his wife to be happy.

In a 2021 appearance on the "12 Questions" podcast, Oliver said his wife, daughters — and the women he works with — help keep his ego in check.

"And they don't sit there telling me how great I am all day, let's just put it that way. They keep me in check, as well as my wife. And now my daughters," Oliver said.

Speaking to People in April, Oliver credited his wife for holding down the fort at home.

"I think it hasn't been easy, and we've had a few bumps here and there, but on the whole, so far, so good. And probably most of that credit should go to Jools, but I'd like to think I'm a good dad," Oliver said.

A representative for Oliver did not immediately respond to a request for comment sent by Business Insider outside regular hours.

Oliver isn't the only celebrity who has spoken about the ways they maintain strong relationships with their spouses.

Rob Lowe, who has been married to Sheryl Berkoff for over 30 years, said he goes to couples therapy with her regularly because "it's like taking your car in and making sure the engine's running great."

Kelsey Grammar said thinking of love as a "contact sport" is the key to his 14-year marriage to his wife, Kayte Walsh.

"Once in a while, you got to back it up with some action," Grammar said.