本集Perry Noble领导力播客中，Perry和Cole深入探讨了灵性领导与灵性虐待的区别。节目涵盖了五个关键区别：领导是必要的，而灵性虐待不是；领导寻求影响，而灵性虐待寻求控制；领导是困难的，而灵性虐待是容易的；领导让人参与，而灵性虐待要求自动接受；领导持久，而灵性虐待不会持久。这些区别有助于区分健康的精神领导与有害的灵性虐待。

🎯领导是必要的，而灵性虐待不是。领导是一种灵性天赋，每个团队都需要一个领导者。某人必须做出决定，通常是艰难的决定。灵性虐待常常出现在领导者孤立自己，以“这是上帝的计划”为借口做出决定，而没有人可以质疑的情况下。而灵性领导会拥抱关于决策或愿景的澄清问题。

🤝领导寻求影响，而灵性虐待寻求控制。领导是关于影响的。正如约翰·马克斯韦尔所说，“人们先相信一个人，而不是职位。”我的个人领导哲学是；倾听耶稣，做祂所说的。在作为领导者做决定时，向你的核心圈子征求意见，然后逐渐扩展到下一层人，以获得他们的客观/教育性意见。一个灵性虐待者只关心控制他们的下属。虐待者认为他们知道对每个人最好的事情。

🤔领导是困难的，而灵性虐待是容易的。当我们疲惫时，我们往往会选择容易而不是正确的事情，这会导致虐待行为。领导是艰苦的工作。作为领导者，你必须不断阐述愿景，为其他人提供进一步的澄清和理解以支持愿景。灵性虐待者做出的陈述更多。灵性领导者提出的问题更多。

🗣️领导让人参与，而灵性虐待要求自动接受。灵性领导在做出影响最大的人的决定时会寻求意见。这允许团队提供额外的见解，并在他们被包括并且他们的意见被领导者重视时，对决策产生认同。灵性虐待者大多数，如果 not all，决定都是单独做出的。他们会做出明显的陈述“这就是了”，“这就是我们做的方式”，“现在去实现吧。”领导者总是会提供“为什么”，虐待者会默认“因为我说了算。”

⏳领导持久，而灵性虐待不会持久。灵性虐待虽然在大教堂中更多地被新闻报道，但主要发生在小教堂中。领导是建立和持久的。灵性虐待最终会赶走优秀的人和伟大的领导者。

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Join us on this week's episode of the Perry Noble Leadership podcast as Perry and Cole dig into the distinctions between Spiritual Leadership and Spiritual Abuse.

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5 Distinctions Between Spiritual Leadership vs Spiritual Abuse:

1) Leadership Is Necessary, Spiritual Abuse Is Not
Leadership is a spiritual gift. Every team needs a point leader. Someone must make the call, most often the difficult call.
Spiritual abuse is often seen when a leader isolates themselves, making decisions under the guise of “this is God’s plan” and no one else can question it. While spiritual
leadership will embrace clarifying questions about decisions or vision.

2) Leadership Seeks To Influence, Spiritual Abuse Seeks To Control
Leadership is about influence. As John Maxwell says, “people buy into a person before a position.” My personal leadership philosophy is; listen to Jesus, do what He says. When making decisions as a leader, bounce ideas off your inner circle and work your way out to the next layer of people for their objective/educational input. A spiritual abuser only cares to control their people. The abuser believes they know what is best for everyone.

3) Leadership Is Difficult, Spiritual Abuse Is Easy
When we are tired, we will often choose to do what is easy rather than what is right, which will lead to abusive behavior. Leadership is difficult work. As a leader, you must constantly cast vision providing further clarification and understanding for others to support the vision.
Spiritual abusers make way more statements. Spiritual leaders ask way more questions.

4) Leadership Lets People Weigh In, While Spiritual Abuse Expects Automatic Buy In
Spiritual leadership will seek input when making decisions from those that the decision will have the most impact on. This allows the team to provide additional insight and become bought into the decisions if they are included and their opinions are valued by the leader. Spiritual abusers make most, if not all, decisions alone. They will make demonstrative statements “that this is it,” t”his is the way we are doing it”, “now make it happen.”
Leaders will always provide the “why,” abusers will default to, “because I said so.”

5) Leadership Lasts - Spiritual Abuse Does Not
Spiritual abuse while talked more about in the news at larger churches, mostly occurs in smaller churches. Leadership builds and lasts. Spiritual abuse will eventually run off great people and great leaders.

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