New Yorker 08月21日
When Your Parents Aren’t Your Parents
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随着DNA检测的普及,越来越多的人通过基因检测发现父母并非自己所想,这一现象引发了深刻的情感冲击和人际关系重塑。由此产生的“非预期父母”(N.P.E.s)群体正在形成,他们通过线上社群、支持网络和会议寻求答案与慰藉,同时也面临着对过去生活、亲子关系以及母亲隐瞒真相的复杂情绪。部分N.P.E.s正积极推动立法,呼吁建立捐精者信息公开的全国性注册,这在法律界引发了关于隐私权和LGBTQ+权益的讨论。此外,文章还涉及了唐纳德·特朗普关于邮寄选票的争议性言论,以及对网球界新星卡洛斯·阿尔卡拉斯和扬尼克·辛纳的崛起以及文化领域的新书、纪录片和音乐专辑的推荐。

🧬 **DNA检测的普及改变了家庭认知:** 如今,通过简单的DNA检测,数百万美国人发现他们的父母身份并非如他们一直以来所相信的那样。这一现象深刻地影响了个人身份认知和家庭关系,催生了一个新的社群。

🤝 **“非预期父母”(N.P.E.s)社群的形成与支持:** 那些发现父母非亲生的人们开始称自己为“N.P.E.s”,并积极建立支持网络,包括播客、互助小组和全国性会议,如“Untangling Our Roots”,以共同应对由此带来的情感困扰和身份危机。

⚖️ **情感创伤与政治行动的双重影响:** 部分N.P.E.s在处理个人情感创伤的同时,也开始寻求政治途径,例如推动建立捐精者信息的国家注册系统,以保障知情权。然而,此举也引发了关于隐私权和LGBTQ+群体权益的担忧。

🎾 **体育界的明日之星与文化新动向:** 文章还简要提及了网球界冉冉升起的新星卡洛斯·阿尔卡拉斯和扬尼克·辛纳的竞争关系,并推荐了近期值得关注的文化作品,包括一部关于纳粹时期巴伐利亚阿尔卑斯山村庄的书籍,以及Oasis乐队的纪录片和Chance the Rapper的新专辑。

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A staff writer covering books and culture.

During the pandemic, Hunter (not his real name) went so stir-crazy from the isolation of lockdown that he bought an online DNA test, just to have something to do. Then his results came back indicating significant Ashkenazi heritage. That was odd: neither of his parents were Jewish—or so he thought. He called his mother, who confessed to having had an affair with a man Hunter had known, all his life, as a family friend, who would occasionally drop off hand-me-downs, clothes his sons had outgrown.

I met with Hunter earlier this summer for my story, published in this week’s issue, about people who find out from direct-to-consumer DNA tests that their parents aren’t who they thought. Research suggests that an estimated two million Americans who have taken tests from companies like 23andMe and Ancestry could fall into that category. They’ve begun calling themselves N.P.E.s, for “not parent expected,” and have built a support network that includes podcasts, retreats, N.P.E.-trauma-recovery coaches, a national conference called Untangling Our Roots, and myriad Facebook groups.

Hunter told me that he had joined N.P.E. Facebook groups, but had to leave. “It was too much,” he explained. I quickly saw what he meant. These spaces are often rife with N.P.E.s’ frustration toward the mothers who kept them in the dark and a sense that they were cheated out of a different, perhaps better, life with another family. Some N.P.E.s look back on their childhoods and—cataloguing every slight, every time they felt different—wonder, Was that why? Others are processing their feelings through political action. An N.P.E.-founded lobbying organization called Right to Know has called for a national registry of sperm donors and recipients. It’s rattled some legal advocates who are concerned about privacy and L.G.B.T.Q. rights. “This just sounds like a list of lesbians and single women,” Douglas NeJaime, a professor of legal ethics and family law at Yale, told me.

While some N.P.E.s have become politically galvanized, others are still reckoning with the emotional fallout. As Hunter and I sat by a window in the Condé Nast cafeteria, he showed me the Instagram profile of one of his brothers on his phone. He promised his biological father that he wouldn’t reach out to his half siblings, and that he’d keep everything a secret. But Hunter also told me about a trip he went on in law school, during which a professor came up to him and asked him if he had a brother at another university. “Yes,” he replied, to his own surprise. “He went, ‘I knew it. Something in the way you sit,’ ” Hunter recalled, looking at his reflection. “ ‘Something in the way you sit . . .’ ” he trailed off.

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How Bad Is It?

Donald Trump announced on Truth Social this week that he wants to get rid of mail-in ballots, which nearly a third of Americans use to vote, before next year’s midterm elections. The President said that he will begin pursuing this policy by signing an executive order that would “bring HONESTY to the 2026 Midterm Elections.”

Can he do that? “The Constitution gives the President no power over how elections are run,” Michael Waldman, the president and C.E.O. of the Brennan Center for Justice, at N.Y.U. School of Law, told us. That authority lies with the states and with Congress—meaning Trump’s plan would be unconstitutional.

More broadly, “these threats are really bad—not so much because they will happen, but because of what they signal about the fights ahead,” Waldman argued. They are “part of an effort to sow distrust and spur conspiracy theories to make it harder to have free and fair elections.” Still, he said, “American elections are secure and safe and accurate, and all the screaming claims of misconduct don’t pan out.”


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